Chat The evolution of a hobbyist

[UsefulIdiot]

This is an attempt to summarize the evolution of a hobbyist.

• The first experience – usually a handjob at an MP. Usually not that pleasurable, but a turning point.
• A little time goes by and there is reflection on that first experience – am I now a person that does this? Does it get better? Is it shameful?
• Several more massage sessions with handjobs. The hobbyist has more information about the paid sex world and is more comfortable with it.
• The hobbyist moves to the next level – nude reverse. This is a big step.
• After several months of body slides and hand jobs the hobbyist is offered and accepts CBJs.
• Now more experienced and more comfortable with being naked with a stranger and paying for sex the hobbyist is ready for full service.
• After the novelty of full service with random women wears off, the hobbyist has had many experiences, good and bad, and starts actively seeking out good ones.
• The hobbyist now has a few women he sees at least once every couple of months but is always looking for a new top level MPA. At this point he may also start seeing SPs.
• Next, the hobbyist spends most of his sessions with regulars.
• One or more of his regulars starts to get more personal. It could be real, or it could be manipulation, or both. If he is wise, he will nip it in the bud. But he will probably make mistakes, and hopefully will learn from them.
• Jadedness. There comes a time when the hobbyist has done everything he wants to, and it is no longer thrilling. It is now time to stop for a few months or more.
• Long term pattern – after a few years the hobbyist knows what he likes, where to find it, when to seek it out, and when to take a break.

 

[OG_funguy]

You forgot to add that for the guys who have been doing this for a really long time, they become desensitized and can't even get hard anymore...

 

[UsefulIdiot]

You forgot to add that for the guys who have been doing this for a really long time, they become desensitized and can't even get hard anymore...

I guess I paint an optimistic picture in which hobbyists learn from their experiences and adapt. It is okay to make mistakes, but it is sad when people do not evolve. I can see how some would get bitter and blame the women (who are flawed, like us) when in reality it is jadedness and our own aging bodies that is to blame for our desensitization.

 

[Old No. 7]

Other variations of this were on another board about six months ago.

 

[Caligula]

Sounds like a really stupid hobbyist.

When I see a pretty girl, I would try to get my hands all over her.

What kind of moron pays several sessions for "hand jobs" just to become more comfortable.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Sounds like a really stupid hobbyist.

When I see a pretty girl, I would try to get my hands all over her.

What kind of moron pays several sessions for "hand jobs" just to become more comfortable.

There are a lot of us morons on here. Seeing sex worker has been a big taboo for most of my life, one of the benefits of being from an Irish Catholic background.

 

[Hangdai]

I guess I paint an optimistic picture in which hobbyists learn from their experiences and adapt. It is okay to make mistakes, but it is sad when people do not evolve. I can see how some would get bitter and blame the women (who are flawed, like us) when in reality it is jadedness and our own aging bodies that is to blame for our desensitization.

Well stated, many on here all too easily slam the ladies for being in this business.

Your evolution timeline will sound familiar with most on here.

I’ve always had a wandering way when it comes to women,

I just find it hard to believe only one perfect companion exists for each of us in our lifetime.

My introduction into the world of paid sex in the GTA was both a blessing and curse in my life, I’m just glad we are able to hobby with basically no hindrance or fear from prosecution here in the GTA.

 

[vanelric]

Similar to Caliguy I skipped the first few steps, started doing some research and heard about Pure and learned it was extremely close to where I live. Went for a walk-in not really knowing what to expect and got a BBBJ without asking, didn't realize that happened in massage places. Every step after, yup...unfortunately yup.

 

[SJRich1973]

I've seen seen, witnessed and been on this evolution but not necessarily in particular order. In a year or two it just progressed and spawned to unprecedented turn of events. The ups and downs is unbelievable but always been grateful. If I would turn back time and start all over again...Fuck I will do the same thing even better with lots of gusto!
Hobbyist have fun and remember to always be safe!

 

[ToucanDan]

I went from 1 -> 2 -> 6 -> 8. How do I jump straight to 12?

 

[SJRich1973]

Well stated, many on here all too easily slam the ladies for being in this business.

Your evolution timeline will sound familiar with most on here.

I’ve always had a wandering way when it comes to women,

I just find it hard to believe only one perfect companion exists for each of us in our lifetime.

My introduction into the world of paid sex in the GTA was both a blessing and curse in my life, I’m just glad we are able to hobby with basically no hindrance or fear from prosecution here in the GTA.

Well one thing for sure we will not be able to run in any elected government offices...MP as in Member of Parliament (not the other)....By default we already forfeited...

And, yes it is a blessing for us here in GTA to be able to hobby just like what you said "no hindrance or fear". Although we still execute discreetly which to my opinion is good otherwise the thrills and excitements that goes with the hunt might diminish or go away over time. That would be boring if that happens...

 

[OG_funguy]

I guess I paint an optimistic picture in which hobbyists learn from their experiences and adapt. It is okay to make mistakes, but it is sad when people do not evolve. I can see how some would get bitter and blame the women (who are flawed, like us) when in reality it is jadedness and our own aging bodies that is to blame for our desensitization.

I agree...would never blame the ladies for my short-cummings...

 

[JaimeWolf]

After posting 20 reviews, which level am I at?

 

[UsefulIdiot]

After posting 20 reviews, which level am I at?

You tell us. Have things ever gotten personal with a sex worker for you?

 

[therealcole]

This is an attempt to summarize the evolution of a hobbyist.

• The first experience – usually a handjob at an MP. Usually not that pleasurable, but a turning point.
• A little time goes by and there is reflection on that first experience – am I now a person that does this? Does it get better? Is it shameful?
• Several more massage sessions with handjobs. The hobbyist has more information about the paid sex world and is more comfortable with it.
• The hobbyist moves to the next level – nude reverse. This is a big step.
• After several months of body slides and hand jobs the hobbyist is offered and accepts CBJs.
• Now more experienced and more comfortable with being naked with a stranger and paying for sex the hobbyist is ready for full service.
• After the novelty of full service with random women wears off, the hobbyist has had many experiences, good and bad, and starts actively seeking out good ones.
• The hobbyist now has a few women he sees at least once every couple of months but is always looking for a new top level MPA. At this point he may also start seeing SPs.
• Next, the hobbyist spends most of his sessions with regulars.
• One or more of his regulars starts to get more personal. It could be real, or it could be manipulation, or both. If he is wise, he will nip it in the bud. But he will probably make mistakes, and hopefully will learn from them.
• Jadedness. There comes a time when the hobbyist has done everything he wants to, and it is no longer thrilling. It is now time to stop for a few months or more.
• Long term pattern – after a few years the hobbyist knows what he likes, where to find it, when to seek it out, and when to take a break.

That was my first month. :0

 

[OG_funguy]

You tell us. Have things ever gotten personal with a sex worker for you?

What do you consider 'personal'?

 

[therealcole]

What do you consider 'personal'?

Mortgage payments.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

What do you consider 'personal'?

She says she has feelings for you or she shows signs of jealousy or someone stole from her and she needs help to pay rent or you paid for sex but she just wants to talk and hold hands or it is her birthday, do not forget a gift, and on and on. Basically crossing a professional line and trying to emotionally manipulate you.

 

[OG_funguy]

She says she has feelings for you or she shows signs of jealousy or someone stole from her and she needs help to pay rent or you paid for sex but she just wants to talk and hold hands or it is her birthday, do not forget a gift, and on and on. Basically crossing a professional line and trying to emotionally manipulate you.

I see...

 

[SaggyBallz]

You may have left out the part where one is fearful of their first STI...weeks of anxiety and turns out to be nothing.