Chat The evolution of a hobbyist

[JaimeWolf]

You tell us. Have things ever gotten personal with a sex worker for you?

That isn't leveling up.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

That isn't leveling up.

This is meant as a conversation, not a treatise. Care to share your thoughts?

 

[Pay2Play]

This is an attempt to summarize the evolution of a hobbyist.

• The first experience – usually a handjob at an MP. Usually not that pleasurable, but a turning point.
• A little time goes by and there is reflection on that first experience – am I now a person that does this? Does it get better? Is it shameful?
• Several more massage sessions with handjobs. The hobbyist has more information about the paid sex world and is more comfortable with it.
• The hobbyist moves to the next level – nude reverse. This is a big step.
• After several months of body slides and hand jobs the hobbyist is offered and accepts CBJs.
• Now more experienced and more comfortable with being naked with a stranger and paying for sex the hobbyist is ready for full service.
• After the novelty of full service with random women wears off, the hobbyist has had many experiences, good and bad, and starts actively seeking out good ones.
• The hobbyist now has a few women he sees at least once every couple of months but is always looking for a new top level MPA. At this point he may also start seeing SPs.
• Next, the hobbyist spends most of his sessions with regulars.
• One or more of his regulars starts to get more personal. It could be real, or it could be manipulation, or both. If he is wise, he will nip it in the bud. But he will probably make mistakes, and hopefully will learn from them.
• Jadedness. There comes a time when the hobbyist has done everything he wants to, and it is no longer thrilling. It is now time to stop for a few months or more.
• Long term pattern – after a few years the hobbyist knows what he likes, where to find it, when to seek it out, and when to take a break.

You’ve got it easy now. It’s easy to read and or post.

She says she has feelings for you or she shows signs of jealousy or someone stole from her and she needs help to pay rent or you paid for sex but she just wants to talk and hold hands or it is her birthday, do not forget a gift, and on and on. Basically crossing a professional line and trying to emotionally manipulate you.

That actually happens? Say it isn’t so!

 

[Buzzkill]

Sounds like a really stupid hobbyist.

When I see a pretty girl, I would try to get my hands all over her.

What kind of moron pays several sessions for "hand jobs" just to become more comfortable.

Many years ago all you could get was a handjob, it’s only turned into a porn fest the last several years, before that, no kissing, no daty, never mind CIM, FS, DFK...

Lucky for you, you started right at the hight of debauchery...

 

[xtc27]

Well one thing for sure we will not be able to run in any elected government offices...MP as in Member of Parliament (not the other)....By default we already forfeited...

...din’t stop Jack Layton... I’d vote 4 him today, too!

...guess if I decide 2 run, have to change my name f/XTC...

 

[coffeemate]

dam, I did two decent FS sessions and then an amazing bbbjcim experience. Now to just stop this from becoming a habit

 

[UsefulIdiot]

dam, I did two decent FS sessions and then an amazing bbbjcim experience. Now to just stop this from becoming a habit

Of all the "bad" habits to have, hobbying is the most enjoyable for me. I can live without alcohol, THC, fatty food and gambling, but life without sex for me is not worth living!

 

[Hangdai]

dam, I did two decent FS sessions and then an amazing bbbjcim experience. Now to just stop this from becoming a habit

I use to do that in one day.

Ummm, yea, I think I had a problem. It’s an addiction, right up there with smoking, drugs, or gambling

 

[UsefulIdiot]

"The future's uncertain, the end is always near". My advice is ... enjoy your vices!

 

[xtc27]

She says she has feelings for you or she shows signs of jealousy or someone stole from her and she needs help to pay rent or you paid for sex but she just wants to talk and hold hands or it is her birthday, do not forget a gift, and on and on. Basically crossing a professional line and trying to emotionally manipulate you.

...like stream o consciousness style.... kinda like how brain feels while this happening....

 

[Macx96]

Life is about achieving balance in things ,this hobby throws that out the window!

 

[xtc27]

Life is about achieving balance in things ,this hobby throws that out the window!

... so disagree... my life unbalanced by craving for naked Asian spinners... now in balance... ah! I am HEALED, Lordy Lordy...

 

[Mr Gucci gucci]

Got engaged to a former mpa. Both got a place together in her home country as she stopped working. Our family even met each others family.

Had a huge stupid fight. Broke up. Solved the place. Now shes back working as mpa in other country.

Now im back to seeing girls 2 to 3 times a day.

But basically numb n bored and dont even speak to mpa or spa during sessions.

 

[Hangdai]

Got engaged to a former mpa. Both got a place together in her home country as she stopped working. Our family even met each others family.

Had a huge stupid fight. Broke up. Solved the place. Now shes back working as mpa in other country.

Now im back to seeing girls 2 to 3 times a day.

But basically numb n bored and dont even speak to mpa or spa during sessions.

Thanks for sharing your past drama.

2-3 times a day?

I guess there’s no time now to catch feelings even if you wanted to.

 

[Mr Gucci gucci]

Thanks for sharing your past drama.

2-3 times a day?

I guess there’s no time now to catch feelings even if you wanted to.

Wouldnt call it drama. But im just saying part of evolution..

Ya couldnt catch feelings when ure numb. I envy the people who go to mpa and sp to "talk" and for companion tbh.

 

[smallpantieshk]

This is an attempt to summarize the evolution of a hobbyist.

• The first experience – usually a handjob at an MP. Usually not that pleasurable, but a turning point.
• A little time goes by and there is reflection on that first experience – am I now a person that does this? Does it get better? Is it shameful?
• Several more massage sessions with handjobs. The hobbyist has more information about the paid sex world and is more comfortable with it.
• The hobbyist moves to the next level – nude reverse. This is a big step.
• After several months of body slides and hand jobs the hobbyist is offered and accepts CBJs.
• Now more experienced and more comfortable with being naked with a stranger and paying for sex the hobbyist is ready for full service.
• After the novelty of full service with random women wears off, the hobbyist has had many experiences, good and bad, and starts actively seeking out good ones.
• The hobbyist now has a few women he sees at least once every couple of months but is always looking for a new top level MPA. At this point he may also start seeing SPs.
• Next, the hobbyist spends most of his sessions with regulars.
• One or more of his regulars starts to get more personal. It could be real, or it could be manipulation, or both. If he is wise, he will nip it in the bud. But he will probably make mistakes, and hopefully will learn from them.
• Jadedness. There comes a time when the hobbyist has done everything he wants to, and it is no longer thrilling. It is now time to stop for a few months or more.
• Long term pattern – after a few years the hobbyist knows what he likes, where to find it, when to seek it out, and when to take a break.

That was fairly well thought out

 

[Buzzkill]

On that Subject, For example. Too many visits to the spa, less money for Stocks, clothes and everything else in life that gives me pleasure. Too many visits to the the stock exchange, less money for spa visits. too many times to the casino, no money for spa visit, trips, new clothes etc. So live life in moderation is key for me. When I’m unbalanced, I will tend to be more agitated, aggressive, hypocritical, etc. My sex life was almost non existent until I found this forum. I was getting frustrated, impatient with people etc. Now at least I get it once a week as opposed to 1 every other month. trying to stay balanced is key for me I think. Just for the overall picture. That’s my thought.

Yup,, it’s nice to play with all these hot babes...but the real reason is we need the calmness it brings, life is too full of stress and struggle...to just have even that 30mins of bliss goes a long way...forget extras and all that, just lying there with a beautiful woman, no questions asked is the ultimate joy...

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Yup,, it’s nice to play with all these hot babes...but the real reason is we need the calmness it brings, life is too full of stress and struggle...to just have even that 30mins of bliss goes a long way...forget extras and all that, just lying there with a beautiful woman, no questions asked is the ultimate joy...

We think we pursue sex just for pleasure, but we experience so much more - every woman is different, and our own moods and needs vary. If you have a high stress life then time with an MPA is a welcome break. If you do not get touched enough, MPAs fill that need. If you spend all your energy on other people, a session with an MPA is good "you" time. If you cannot find a GF or your wife has frozen you out, an MPA can sate that sexual need. If you are generally bored, the whole MPA scene is an adventure where good times are enjoyed and bad times become anecdotes and things to complain about. If you have a need to have many notches on your sexual belt, and your looks and charm are not enough, the MPA scene is a way to get there. And if you, like me, really treasure the occasional odd-ball experience, this too is to be had in the MPA scene. And there are so many more different types of experience - for example once or twice a year I crave something dirty (one of these days I will visit DT Maggie).

 

[OG_funguy]

We think we pursue sex just for pleasure, but we experience so much more - every woman is different, and our own moods and needs vary. If you have a high stress life then time with an MPA is a welcome break. If you do not get touched enough, MPAs fill that need. If you spend all your energy on other people, a session with an MPA is good "you" time. If you cannot find a GF or your wife has frozen you out, an MPA can sate that sexual need. If you are generally bored, the whole MPA scene is an adventure where good times are enjoyed and bad times become anecdotes and things to complain about. If you have a need to have many notches on your sexual belt, and your looks and charm are not enough, the MPA scene is a way to get there. And if you, like me, really treasure the occasional odd-ball experience, this too is to be had in the MPA scene. And there are so many more different types of experience - for example once or twice a year I crave something dirty (one of these days I will visit DT Maggie).

Well put...

 

[squirrelhunter1]

Well said!! That’s the truth. if anyone admits it or not Doesn’t matter. I relate to several of those. Lack of sex from girlfriend (Chinese), Asian addiction (mysterious and will always be fascinated) and last but not least, it’s in our DNA to procreate. And to be honest, I like the notches on my belt Too! Ha ha.

Seriously guys, if you told your SO, or girlfriend lack of sex was driving you to others. Do u not think she would pay attention and change???. Or by not telling her does this give you the excuse to wander....

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