What requests are *appropriate*?

[Dave]

What requests are *appropriate*?

jbo5 - if you write to this forum as a male client, you are pretty much assumed to be a creep.

It's not that you are male or a male client that made some posters view you as creepy and you know that. But, if you need clarification as to what statements you made that set off red flags, here they are in bold:

I was lying on my back while she massaged my hands and arms. As she was holding my arm doing her thing, my fingers brushed against her breast. I assumed it was incidental and spent the next minute trying to fight off an erection. After my hands, she moved behind me and started on my neck. She must have been leaning over me, because I could feel her necklace dangling against my forehead. Then I felt what I'm pretty sure were her breasts grazing against the top of my forehead, several times. I'm only 95% sure because I kept my eyes closed, but what else could it be? Anyway, that gave me a full erection that lasted a couple of minutes. That didn't seem to bother her as she was especially warm with me afterwards.

My question - was all this incidental? I'd be inclined to dismiss it as such, but neither of these things has ever happened to me during a massage before, and she's a veteran pro who knows her way around a massage table.

Historically, this forum has attracted numerous "trolls" - posters whose sole purpose in posting was to gain some excitement by talking about sexual aspects of massage and most of those threads involve discussions about erections. As a board, these discussions are strongly discouraged as those of us who are long-term participants of this forum and professional Massage Therapists have long since tired of these topics to the degree where we, as a forum, have felt it necessary to place not one but TWO separate threads at the top of the topic list for this section detailing what is and is not acceptable to have posted in this section of the board. For your convenience I will link to both of those threads and if you have not already done so, please read them:

Please Read Before You Post - Client Section
Client FAQs: Please Read Before Posting

FWIW, I am not accusing YOU of being a troll per se, just stating my opinion of how/why you may have been viewed as and treated as one in the context of your "Inappropriate Contact" topic.

From what I can tell, it's a very small group of therapists that hang out here, and they are by no means representative of the profession.

Yes, compared to the massage profession as a whole, we are just a small and random sampling of our profession. No one here has ever tried to claim that we represent a majority of the profession.

And, as you've seen, they are not at all helpful.

That truly is a matter of opinion, which you are entitled to. However, I would argue that your experience is not necessarily representative of this board. I would also caution that whenever you post a question on ANY internet forum, you should be prepared for a wide variety of responses, some of which you may not like.

Just talk to your therapist, ask for what you want, and don't worry about offending her.

If you're not someone who worries about offending massage therapists, why didn't you just ask YOUR massage therapist your question directly (ie: Your breasts hit my forehead, what's that about?") rather than post to an internet forum asking us in essence "what's going on in my massage therapist's head?" Also, if you are truly not worried about offending us, why should we be concerned that we have offended you?

 

[Tia]

What requests are *appropriate*?

Thank you Pete. You said it well.

 

[sudhitcr@gmail.com]

What requests are *appropriate*?

Thank you Pete. You said it well.

:iagree:

 

[TerraL]

What requests are *appropriate*?

:iagree: I'm with you Pete.

Gotta appreciate how those of us who have been on the forum for years now, as well as in the business for over 20+ years, can be judged by someone who has just recently begun posting here regarding how many of us there are, as well as our level of helpfulness & expertise. Never mind the posts they've chosen to make and what their level of expectation is, much less how much they're really concerned about offending any practitioners...Just saying...