How To Treat An MPA

[gc1j]

Obviously I wanted to get people's attention... but it wasn't in an attempt to start a fight.

The problem I have is when a MPA seems to request girlfriend treatment. I mean she's not my gf. And if she was my gf... she wouldn't be asking for money in exchange for her act. I'm trying to establish a defining line between a gf and a "service provider". It seems like a number of people here are actually going to MP's not for "tension release" but for a GF experience. And I'm just not sure if that's the real purpose of these establishments.

 

[M W]

- There will be those that go in to drop a load and leave.

- There will be those that go in to drop a load Today, however, Tomorow they will think they've found a connection of some sorts and will go for a massage session that includes a "release".

- There will be those that go in to see their future wife for 60min in room#3 today. However, first she has to finish the guy off who came in to drop a load and leave.

kkarn/

 

[dayquil_1]

That's what I'm getting at... they're doing a job. Isn't the money their reward for their job?

 

[Pompal 09.]

Just got back from my session.

WOW!

Cheers,
Jack

 

[Lov3]

"The problem I have is when a MPA seems to request girlfriend treatment. I mean she's not my gf. And if she was my gf... she wouldn't be asking for money in exchange for her act. I'm trying to establish a defining line between a gf and a "service provider". It seems like a number of people here are actually going to MP's not for "tension release" but for a GF experience. And I'm just not sure if that's the real purpose of these establishments"

What is she asking you to do that is so wrong? Take out the garbage, explain where you were last night? If she just wants you to talk sweet its no different than a session with a dirty talker. Just take it as part of the session. Now does she cuddle you and give you GFE type treatment? If so count yourself luck lots of guys look for that sort of thing. If its not your thing keep her in mind and try others that suit your tastes better. But you never know the winter is long and cold you may change your mind.

 

[M D]

Originally Posted by JackCrack
I'm just curious how you guys treat an MPA? I don't mean if you treat them bad... but I'm referring to how you think of them when you are with them.

I look at it as... I'm paying the girl money so that she can provide a service without me being too emotionally sensitive and "cuddly" to her. I figure if I am going to be emotional and cuddly... then I'd just get a GF.

Do you agree... disagree? How do you picture your MPA when you are with her?
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My understand of the "rule of life" is to treat others as you yourself would like to be treated (unless you are into pain) or until they treat you badly. We do not live in a vaccum, whether they are MPA's, men, other women ect. we still need to find a method of communication where all parties have a positive outcome, the classic "win/win". If we all follow this type of behaviour, our path through life, is much, much smoother.

Why not just get a girlfriend?

There is no right or wrong answer here,
Some men do not want a girlfriend.
Some men do not want the commitment and responsibility of a girlfriend.
Some men have decided that a girlfriend or wife is hazardous to their health.
Some men just want the variety of being with other women, no strings attached.
Some men want emotional or physical support that they are not getting in their present relationship.

The reasons can go on and on, for every guy their can be a different reason, and that is ok, it is a highly personal decision. The main thing is they are doing the hobby because they believe it will make them more happy than if they were not doing it.

Treating a MPA well, generally means that you will be treated well, and after all, isn't that what most guys pay for and want in the end?

 

[John Dough]

I think he's just being honest. There have been people on here who have posted about conversations they've overheard the girls having... and they weren't too flattering either!

 

[chipinternational14]

Treat them like you would anyone else.

Don't look down on them because they could do the same to you. Remember, you're paying them so that you could be with them. Cash levels the playing field.

Simple rules:
- Go in and be nice. Respect them like you would anyone else.
- Let them control the session. It makes them comfortable and eventually you'll have a better session.
- Let the conversation flow but don't try to seek personal information and don't offer up you own (after multiple visits you both may begin to open up so that's OK - it's a judgement call)
- Don't push for extras/a GFE/a PSE. Either the moment will present itself or it won't. Just pay attention to signals. It's her body so respect her limits. Try a SP instead if that's the service you're really after.
- Remember that it often takes repeat visits before you get the MPA's best session.
- Don't get caught up in the fantasy. It's a cash transaction. Yes, in some circumstances a relationship could happen but it's not common.

The first 5 rules will make hobbying more rewarding. The 6th rule is so that you don't become a casualty of the hobby.

 

[Chi Jackson]

Are you trying to prove something? To yourself? To anyone else?

Why you do what you do is your business. Why do you care what others do? That's their business.

Now if you suspect you're missing something and are trying to broaden your point of view, learn new things and have more fulfilling experiences, then you might enquire as you have.

But you sound like you're trying to argue with people who have been open enough to treat your enquiry as an honest one. I'm tempted to echo your last sentence and in memory of the esteemed Capt. JT Kirk, suggest that what "you're supposed to get" is …. But never mind. Have a great Chistmas, and maybe try adding some unaccustomed levels of enjoyment to your pre-conceptions.

 

[Fantabulous]

oldjones... you're so funny...

Why not just answer the question as opposed to getting all insecure?

 

[VisitorD]

Spode is referring to an old thread over the summer started by Canam that turned into a huge debate, wherein he displayed similar negative attitudes against MPAs. Debate turned to argument turned to name calling and in the end it was plain stupid. The hightlight of the tiff came when Canam blamed his spelling mistakes on his dictation software which didn't make sense because the words were outright spelled incorrectly, rather than a word that sounds the same (e.g. there,they're, their).

Anyways, its seems months of cooling off and he's still jaded with the MP biz. I did learn one thing from Canam though. Some people are going to have some pretty awful attitudes and all the typing in the world won't change it.

 

[circa 1980]

Spode is referring to an old thread over the summer featuring Canam that turned into a huge debate, wherein he displayed similar negative attitudes against MPAs. Debate turned to argument turned to name calling and in the end it was plain stupid. The hightlight of the tiff came when Canam blamed his spelling mistakes on his dictation software which didn't make sense because the words were outright spelled incorrectly, rather than a word that sounds the same (e.g. there,they're, their).

Anyways, its seems months of cooling off and he's still jaded with the MP biz. I did learn one thing from Canam though. Some people are going to have some pretty awful attitudes and all the typing in the world won't change it.

 

[Garf F]

Quit talking to the wall Frank. Da Nile is more than just a river in Egypt.

Some people have their fantasies at MP's. For some of them the fantasy is that they're not having a fantasy.

 

[~Tyeashia~]

For those who are reading this thread... please do not get offended. I'm simply trying to determine if it is the norm for people to treat a MPA as if they are girlfriends... or if people look at them as just a source of sexual release.

I'm just trying to find the defining line between "service provider" and gf.

 

[J NAES]

Those were the days ... and may well be again : (





Not that there's anything wrong with that - with us/them being human 'n' all..


Happy Holidays

 

[walking lady]

If they wanna goto an MPA for a "girlfriend"... then that's their business. What pisses me off is... now I find MPA's are starting to EXPECT that GF treatment from the client.

 

[Brigitte]

it's okaaaay ...

you're repeating yourself, Jack ... I understand that you have your restrictions. Just politely tell them it's a business transaction, you're not their BF, and if ya wanted a GF ya'd go to dating service.




PS Last time I looked to most hobbists GFE primarily meant more variety in the alphabetti spaghetti, but not as much as, or different from PSE and less wet and wild.

 

[Hannah Iced Over]

deep stuff

 

[Power of m squared]

If u are a regular with a particular MPA, u can really enjoy your time booked with her if you have a equal rappo. Uusually when i meet my known MPA'/MPA's i just have a very short list indeed, so when i meet her i usually give her a warm hug, and then she allows me to slowly take off all her clothes, and make love to her for the time i have booked, which includes lots of LFK/DFK, sensual cuddling, Daty, & even Mr. Happy gets a little bit of a touch of her wet P........, overall if an MPA is known she is totally relaxed with u in your arms and in your company, but if she does not know u, then its a different matter and the service is very mechanical and the MPA is always alert of what the client would do next to her. I only visit a very well known and reputable MP i do not venture to small unknown MP's of no repute, few weeks back i did visit a MP at Brown Line, as i wanted to meet their Westor East Indian MPA known as Halle, but was totally disappointed at her services, and her restrictions, i felt that i was with a RMT/or a nurse at a clinic
There are such lovely MPA's that if you know them u will definitely enjoy your money's worth of services with full satisfaction.

 

[aquaninja]

This is all very confusing, but did anyone mention that some of us want a GF, but either can't find someone compatible or can't get one at all or fred forbid, can't acquire sexual intimacy otherwise.

Anyway, to try and answer your question, Jack, although I really have no fuckin clue what it is. There are no doubt those who lean toward both extremes and others who look for varying degrees of both types of satisfaction. It is almost impossible to completely separate physical and emotional needs/desires. There is no absolute definitive line in that sense.

I think you had the answer from the beginning. The difference is $$$ and I think you misinterpret peoples "attachment", and/or consideration for MPAs as human, with the emotions we might have toward a GF ( although I don't doubt an MPA would be delighted to get paid while I surfed for porno and ignored her )

As I implied, whatever void is not being fulfilled through present relationships is likely what we need/desire from MPAs whether , subconscious, misguided or realistic. Fantasy is as real as we believe it to be.

I'm really stretching with this one, but it seems that if MPAs are wanting to be "cuddly", you may give off more of a natural BFE aura than you realise.