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DJCL_MassageTDot said:

Hi Everyone,

I have been struggling with ED (I realize its not an uncommon problems as some other posters have also said here on the board). I did visit my doc and did some medical tests, visited a urologist and had blood tests etc, and basically it comes down to stress and weight gain. So now I’m looking at walking more and trying to eat better etc...but man is it hard (pun intended).

Recently I also had a convo with the wife and she agreed for us to add some toys to our playtime. We used a cock ring and vibrator in the past that were great. I find with the larger belly it’s harder to get the best angle to make penetration. I’ve also had some massage appointments where I just couldn’t get aroused...those were some sad times where I felt bad. Obviously I think I know what to do to become healthier, but it’s the willpower I lack.

Sorry to vent all that. So my question to you is what toys would you recommend for us if I’m also experiencing ED that may help our situation? I was looking at adamandeve.com and hoping to purchase for Valentines coming up.

Do you have suggestions for specific toys and/or places to purchase from?

Thanks for taking the time to read and help!

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Find a sex therapist to talk to. Look in the yellow pages. Best of luck.

DJCL_MassageTDot said:

Hi Everyone,

I have been struggling with ED (I realize its not an uncommon problems as some other posters have also said here on the board). I did visit my doc and did some medical tests, visited a urologist and had blood tests etc, and basically it comes down to stress and weight gain. So now I’m looking at walking more and trying to eat better etc...but man is it hard (pun intended).

Recently I also had a convo with the wife and she agreed for us to add some toys to our playtime. We used a cock ring and vibrator in the past that were great. I find with the larger belly it’s harder to get the best angle to make penetration. I’ve also had some massage appointments where I just couldn’t get aroused...those were some sad times where I felt bad. Obviously I think I know what to do to become healthier, but it’s the willpower I lack.

Sorry to vent all that. So my question to you is what toys would you recommend for us if I’m also experiencing ED that may help our situation? I was looking at adamandeve.com and hoping to purchase for Valentines coming up.

Do you have suggestions for specific toys and/or places to purchase from?

Thanks for taking the time to read and help!

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Have you tried Viagra or cialis

DJCL_MassageTDot said:

Hi Everyone,

I have been struggling with ED (I realize its not an uncommon problems as some other posters have also said here on the board). I did visit my doc and did some medical tests, visited a urologist and had blood tests etc, and basically it comes down to stress and weight gain. So now I’m looking at walking more and trying to eat better etc...but man is it hard (pun intended).

Recently I also had a convo with the wife and she agreed for us to add some toys to our playtime. We used a cock ring and vibrator in the past that were great. I find with the larger belly it’s harder to get the best angle to make penetration. I’ve also had some massage appointments where I just couldn’t get aroused...those were some sad times where I felt bad. Obviously I think I know what to do to become healthier, but it’s the willpower I lack.

Sorry to vent all that. So my question to you is what toys would you recommend for us if I’m also experiencing ED that may help our situation? I was looking at adamandeve.com and hoping to purchase for Valentines coming up.

Do you have suggestions for specific toys and/or places to purchase from?

Thanks for taking the time to read and help!

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Get a penis pump, it helps get blood into the penis to start an erection, then I would use a cock ring to help maintain the erection.

im not overweight but after 40 i needed viagra , its great stuff....

DJCL_MassageTDot said:

I have been struggling with ED (I realize its not an uncommon problems as some other posters have also said here on the board). I did visit my doc and did some medical tests, visited a urologist and had blood tests etc, and basically it comes down to stress and weight gain. So now I’m looking at walking more and trying to eat better etc...but man is it hard (pun intended).

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I'd get another test from a different doctor. Make sure they are knowledgeable.

My father lived with the same thing until one doctor saw on x-ray that one of his organs (Bladder or kidney i think) was inflamed. It was treated and he's back in business.

jimmylikes said:

im not overweight but after 40 i needed viagra , its great stuff....

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I don’t need it but it sure helps. Especially when you’re not really into the lady. You don’t need much for a HH massage. I’ll bite off a little chunk. When I want it go to work quickly I just bite off a small chunk chew it and wash it down. Tastes like shit but in 10 minutes you can feel it going to work. Helps me with the reload factor as well.

stop watching porn.

Are you addicted to porn?

Based on my personal experience the walking can pay off if you are consistent - a fitbit or similar device can help you hit your goals. Totally worth trying - even a small weight loss can have a significant impact on blood pressure.

Next, the hands-down no regrets best sex toy is the Magic Wand Massager by Hitachi. It is big and loud and not pretty but it is a couple's best friend. The legend is true - it was designed and built to be a regular massage wand but it turned out to be the world's most loved sex toy. https://www.amazon.ca/Original-Magi...=1612889837&sprefix=magic+wand,aps,169&sr=8-3

Pink Cherry is reputable, canadian and has a great selection: Massage Vibrators, Magic Wand & Plug-In Vibrators in Canada

I feel for you. Losing weight is brutally hard for most people. Truth is there is no magic answer. Eat right in moderate portions. Exercise right. You have to burn more calories than you consume. IF you are dedicated to the process you can safely lose 1 to 2 pounds a week and keep it off.

Its not fun and honestly for me it never gets any easier but when you are done your daily work out you will feel better about yourself. Then when you lose the first 5 or 10 pounds you will feel even better about yourself.

Just remember that when you are trying to motivate yourself to work out the hardest part is getting off the couch and doing it.

In the mean time cialis really works.

DJCL_MassageTDot said:

Hi Everyone,

I have been struggling with ED (I realize its not an uncommon problems as some other posters have also said here on the board). I did visit my doc and did some medical tests, visited a urologist and had blood tests etc, and basically it comes down to stress and weight gain. So now I’m looking at walking more and trying to eat better etc...but man is it hard (pun intended).

Recently I also had a convo with the wife and she agreed for us to add some toys to our playtime. We used a cock ring and vibrator in the past that were great. I find with the larger belly it’s harder to get the best angle to make penetration. I’ve also had some massage appointments where I just couldn’t get aroused...those were some sad times where I felt bad. Obviously I think I know what to do to become healthier, but it’s the willpower I lack.

Sorry to vent all that. So my question to you is what toys would you recommend for us if I’m also experiencing ED that may help our situation? I was looking at adamandeve.com and hoping to purchase for Valentines coming up.

Do you have suggestions for specific toys and/or places to purchase from?

Thanks for taking the time to read and help!

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Cialis is a good short term fix and many guys get good results. ED is usually (not always) an indication of cardiovascular problems. If you look at my other posts I describe my weight loss journey, but to summarize in July 2020 for the first time in my life I had high blood sugar - I was borderline diabetic. I had been over-weight for some time, but the high blood sugar is what finally spurred me to action. I eliminated treats from my diet, made a small reduction in daily calorie intake, eliminated bread and reduced carbohydrate consumption (I still eat carbs, but not as much). I eat a lost of high protein foods. For example my breakfast is six scrambled eggs, some nuts and goji berries and two mugs of coffee milk (milk with instant coffee, a poor man's latte) plus a lot of supplements. I also added long walks to my routine - I go for a 90 minute walk at least six days a week. There are many days when I do not want to walk, but once I am outside and get going I am okay. I wear a FitBit to track calories burned, and I weigh myself and measure my waist every day. It has been a long journey: sometimes results came quickly, sometimes I plateaued for a few weeks before I started dropping weight again. It is a marathon not a sprint. Since July I have gone from 214 lbs. to 182 lbs., and my waist has gone from 39.75" to 34.25" (I am 5'10"). My blood pressure is now in a healthy range and my waking pulse has dropped by 15 points. I now have better erections and I enjoy sex more. I will continue this journey for at least another six months. I would like to have a 32" waist for the first time in over twenty years.

Aside from the weight loss, sexual improvements and better health measure tests, I can also report that I have not been sick a single day since I started my journey. I usually have a cold or flu at least twice a year that lasts a couple of weeks. Because of my slow approach to weight loss I did not lose much muscle mass. The pandemic has really hurt my small business and it has been a challenge to stay solvent until the it passes. This weight loss journey has been psychologically beneficial - I cannot control the economy or COVID-19, but my health has been one area where I do have control and can get positive results.

I suggest you start by seeing your family doctor and getting a physical. Get your sugar, lipid and testosterone levels checked and then make a long term plan for diet and exercise. Choose an approach that will work for you (everyone is different) and does not take tremendous will power. Stick with the plan, monitor your progress, make changes as necessary but stick with it. Expect setbacks and do not get disheartened. Good luck.

Here is a good one.

DJCL_MassageTDot said:

Hi Everyone,

I have been struggling with ED (I realize its not an uncommon problems as some other posters have also said here on the board). I did visit my doc and did some medical tests, visited a urologist and had blood tests etc, and basically it comes down to stress and weight gain. So now I’m looking at walking more and trying to eat better etc...but man is it hard (pun intended).

Recently I also had a convo with the wife and she agreed for us to add some toys to our playtime. We used a cock ring and vibrator in the past that were great. I find with the larger belly it’s harder to get the best angle to make penetration. I’ve also had some massage appointments where I just couldn’t get aroused...those were some sad times where I felt bad. Obviously I think I know what to do to become healthier, but it’s the willpower I lack.

Sorry to vent all that. So my question to you is what toys would you recommend for us if I’m also experiencing ED that may help our situation? I was looking at adamandeve.com and hoping to purchase for Valentines coming up.

Do you have suggestions for specific toys and/or places to purchase from?

Thanks for taking the time to read and help!

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Hi, do not think too much about it. They say the biggest sex organ is the brain. Do not making erection your goal. Take it easy. The other thing: ask your doctor to check your prostate. If you have to urinate several time during night you may have enlarged prostate. It is quite normal. All men get prostate enlargement when they age. The problem with enlarged prostate is it can put pressure on the nerves that communicate between brain and the penis. If that is the case with simple drugs it will go away and you can enjoy again.

Anti depressants are known to cause boner problems. Try and get off that shit if you can.

start exercising. Walking is great, but mix some running into it. If running isdifficult, run for 1 minute, then, Walk for 5. Over time increase the lengths of the runs. Hit the gym abs lift weights once you’re able to.

look into intermittent fasting for weight loss. I was fairly muscular to begin with, but had some fat from bulking. I started cutting out breakfast and i lost 10lbs in a month. Still ate the same.

I would also look into these supplements:
L-Lysine (for weight loss)
L-arginine (for erectile issues)

SPAfan2020 said:

Hi, do not think too much about it. They say the biggest sex organ is the brain. Do not making erection your goal. Take it easy. The other thing: ask your doctor to check your prostate. If you have to urinate several time during night you may have enlarged prostate. It is quite normal. All men get prostate enlargement when they age. The problem with enlarged prostate is it can put pressure on the nerves that communicate between brain and the penis. If that is the case with simple drugs it will go away and you can enjoy again.

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The biggest sex organ is the brain. Very true indeed. When I was dating two ladies at the same time and banging them regularly 2-3 times a week about a year and a half ago, one of them was too much drama and I had a hard time getting hard with her even with the help of the pills. The other one was a bit moody but she has a great body, always wet and horny, so I didn't even need pills or lube with her.
Last month I went to see a girl from MW at a condo at Warden and hwy7. To my surprise, a guy opened the door for me and told me to go upstairs where the girl was. I have been using MW quite often but have never seen a guy in the same unit. I couldn't get him out of my head when I was with the girl. That killed my mood and I couldn't get hard.
Lately, I am seeing a few Korean agency girls such as Nana, Jenny and Jaime alternately every other week or so and I am finding out I have the best chemistry with Jenny and she gave me the hardest boner every time I see her. She is a PSE and GFE combo girl for me . Nana and Jaime are also very good, Nana is just like a little sex toy to me and Jaime is a GFE girl for me if I want to chit chat and cuddle with. Grina very good looking but gave me an attitude during Daty and I lost my boner right away. It's amazing how the brain functions.

randomhandle said:

Next, the hands-down no regrets best sex toy is the Magic Wand Massager by Hitachi.

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for this. I have dated a girl who had one. Let's just say it's like standing on the bridge at the bottom of the log ride at canada's wonderland.

I have that same problem. I recomend to find a sex therapist to talk to. This helps me.