Cheating on your favorite MPA.

[Najee]

I'm a guy with 4 or 5 favorite MPAs. I seldom stray . I go through periods where I'll favor one over another but I love them all. Last week I visited one of my all time favorites who I've frequented for almost 10 years. I haven't seen her in 5 or 6 months, but when I did she reminded my why I have always liked her. Kind, sexy person, amazing body, and very dependable. Someone I've always had chemistry with.
Yesterday I called to make an appointment at the same spa with another favorite who works there. I usually try to avoid going on a day when 2 or more of my faves are working the same shift. Anyway I made all the arrangements and said my name before I realized that the person I was speaking to on the phone was the provider of the lovely session we had had last week. She said who she was and there was a really awkward moment where I was really embarrassed. I know lots of you will go on about how it doesn't matter, they are professionals, and it's a business transaction and all that, but I felt like I had been caught cheating.
In the real world of relationships that kind of 2 timing is verboten, a relationship killer. It's hard not for that value not to spill over into the world of long term MPA/client relationships. Very embarrassing. But not enough to make me change my hobby habits. It will be interesting to see how favorite #1 will treat me when I see her again. I'm sure she will be cool but I'll be a bit on edge when I see her again.

 

[kori p]

The "blindness" is insane. And the "blame" is insane. You've conveniently decided that these comments can ONLY come from a woman. A bitter woman at that. Talk about blindness and blame. Too much of that going on.

Either way you slice it, a woman is a woman. And a man needs to appreciate her, and cultivate the woman in her! Not to re-sexualize her for his own personal and very selfish needs, and leave her a shell of her former self. Most women will NOT tolerate this....and that is why men visit sex providers.

Let's get real.

 

[Bollox]

(a) if your not a woman you're one on those guys who have been brainwashed to believe that women can do no wrong and whatever they do is right.

(b) you're not a child. don't go blaming someone else for this "re-sexualize her for his own personal and very selfish needs, and leave her a shell of her former self." unless you were being held prisoner or something you were a willing participant, you knew what you were getting into whatever that was.

 

[akaMaryn]

Wow...if you feel like you're "cheating" on someone you are paying, you need to take a step back.

 

[Pompal 09.]

agree...it's silly...they're working girls for god's sake

 

[Matakola]

It's one thing to think that way, but here's a thought to help you put things in perspective.
Do you think she feels guilty about seeing other clients?

 

[Heywood Jablowmi]

I totally agree. A really good woman is worth more than life itself. But when you marry one and she becomes another, then what? When the cycle isnt even given much thought because the comfort of every-day maintains a sense of neededness, where does that leave a man and a woman? I have said it takes 2. TWO sides, and the truth. But to act like men are evil people because they seek comfort, affection, acceptance, satisfaction, indulgence, stimulation, etc etc etc....when its being held at ransom like a child with no TV at home....or put down for their desires....or ignored on many other levels....A man is a man! There is something that connects a man's penis to his ego, his heart, his success. If he can grab his lady love and the world around him fades away...thats all he needs to conqure the day!!!

and asn... I've never met a man in category a)

LOL

 

[LizzakaMel]

dude you need to take a break. cheating on an MPA? are you kidding. I get the MPAs i see regularly to make recommendations on new girls I would like.

 

[Life In Technicolor]

Peppy honey, Im with the boys here....1. The competitiveness factor has gotten WAY out of hand in this biz! 2. Girl 1 should NOT be cold next time 3. You might need a break from the hobby

Ladies, a man comes to us for VARTIETY! If he wants to get shit on for what or who he does, he can go home at the end of the say and get lots of that! Put yourselves in his shoes for a min here...you are a guy, you work hard all day, you deal with your own shit and your bosses and your business' and 'the market' and all that stress. you have a wife at home who barely says hi when you come home, let alone put on something cute and rock a new move to blow his nuts. Its probably been a month since the wife put out last, and months since the last BJ (hence why they ask so much) So you, as a guy, decide to take your spare 100-150-200$ and see how things go with a hot girl who's job it is to engulf your mind in fantasy.......

He walks in, with a skip in his step to see YOU MPA-extrodinaire....and you give him shit? or dirty looks? or a cold session? WHY? Because he saw a co-worker??? Better he come there and see a friend Vs some shady girl at a shady spa no? Girls, look at the bigger picture...if a guy comes to your spa and no matter who he sees, he's happy, well serviced, and smiling...he's MUCH more likely to come back to that spa Vs another one. And more business for the spa is more business for all of us!

Peppy1...see whom ever the fuck you like! Take the high road. If MPA1 is pissy...DITCH HER! That says alot about her attitude anyway....

 

[amz]

Ladies, a man comes to us for VARTIETY! If he wants to get shit on for what or who he does, he can go home at the end of the say and get lots of that!

Square, you are one straight shooter (love it!). We poor guys get hassle at work and at home, the MP or SC is our last refuge.

Why do MP guys have all these moral dilemmas? Dark Chirma does an unattractive MPA because doesn't want to hurt her feelings. Preppy1 feels guilty because he "cheated" on one of his 5 regulars.

 

[Akass]

Gassmans two cents
Wife and I had huge issues for years after kids. Gassman was understanding but yes, it takes two to tango. Gassman sort of gave up and started with a couple of sex trade encounters. Guilt set in and gassman says fuck this we fix it or we part ways. Well after a shit load of quite unpleasant counselling for both of us I might add, we fixed it. Few years later real shit happens and gassman is widowed. Not good. Gassman has had some real lousy times with SP's and MP's BUT also some real good fun and met some wonderfully compassionate and caring providers including MPA2 and a couple who shall remain nameless who have helped gassman in some pretty lonely times. Granted we pay for time and service not "love and affection" but they are still ladies and treated as such not objects provide a valuable service to many guys for a variety of needs. If you feel you need to go to MPA or SP due to your SO not playing ball get it fixed accept them for what they do provide in the relationship or get out. But at least be honest with yourself if not them.

 

[EDIMOMO]

I've never had an issue with any of "my" clients seeing other girls. I think most MPAs would take the same stance.

If you`re dealing with professional girls, (which I think you are...), you have nothing to worry about Peppy1

 

[Mickey K]

Who told you?

 

[Coleen]

a) Not into Oprah, Sally Jesse, Dr. Phil.....

b) "My wife won't give me a BS, allow DATY and every other acronym-laced act that I truly and so desperately need and am addicted to....so I go see service providers." "And even if she does it is not enough for me....because I am so addicted to porn".

Be Real.

 

[thehelper97]

Very well said. Very honest, accepting and real. Totally deserving of understanding and compassion.

 

[Power of m squared]

Now that is the 'real' Im talking about. There are 2 people involved, and the balance gets off and sometiems it goes back and forth. And eventually there is a point where you have a choice...stay or leave. Thank you for posting that gassman

 

[Edwin]

LOL blopar!!

Im gonna make for a great wife one day! MPA's get all the inside info on what NOT to do! lmao!

 

[MarshaMarsha]

WOW ! And to think I almost didn't read this thread because I thought it was silly.

I've been on both sides of this issue - I've worked in a MP for years, and heard the guys complaining all of the very VALID points already made here by MPA2. I've also been in the position of being the wife of someone frequenting an MP
So, after having gone through that whole trauma - I can honestly say that MPA2 is absolutley correct - IT TAKES TWO ! There's fault on both sides - no question. Had my husband come to me and said if things don't change I am going to seek out MPA/Sp whatever I'm pretty sure I would have been
a) pissed and b) willing to change HOWEVER think about what that entails for the man looking his wife in the face and telling her that? Risking it all: marriage, kids, finance etc... it's a huge risk, one most men will not take, and frankly I don't blame them.

At the end of the day 95% of situations are blameless simply because it's a 50/50 game. What women often over look is how incredibley important their sexuality is to a man. I won't repeat what MPA2 said so eloquently - just accept it because it's true.

As for the woman scorned(Anbarandy), There are many details of my situation you may find helpful - details I would be willing to share with you in PM in the hopes it may help you cope.

 

[binksbailey2000]

Don't be a smuck.

It's the dollars dude.

If you're spending it somewhere else, all that means to her is you're not spending it with her.

 

[Naomi C]

MPAs just get a very one sided, of a VERY biased and VERY embellished story from their married clients. These poor married male victims of their uncaring. unfeeling, unloving and ungiving, haggard and horrid wives. Most are liars, cheaters, sneaks, philanderers, cowards, extremely selfish and self-centered.

Talking to their wives will give you a completely fresh and TRUE prespective as to these men.

It will also provide a very revealing glimpse as to what type of man not to marry.