I broke the golden rule

[thedirtyone]

I walked into this thread thinking he totally had a threeway with another man in an MP.

 

[krayjee]

Wow !!! I see lots of hates in this thread. To me this hobby is a fun game and you have to know how to play the game well. Most of the ladies are very good at this game. If you are not a strong player, the best way to play this game is hit and run. Otherwise they will get you good.

Here is a little tip..."Women are emotional creatures, not the logical ones. If you know how to open that secret door in their psyche and are welcomed in, they become your play ground."

 

[Hangdai]

Wow !!! I see lots of hates in this thread. To me this hobby is a fun game and you have to know how to play the game well. Most of the ladies are very good at this game. If you are not a strong player, the best way to play this game is hit and run. Otherwise they will get you good.

Here is a little tip..."Women are emotional creatures, not the logical ones. If you know how to open that secret door in their psyche and are welcomed in, they become your play ground."

There has been some good dialogue on this thread and overall I’m impressed with much of the support I’ve received.

This whole thing started with what really amounts to my over inflated idea of what I thought the lady thought of me.
Once I realized the truth, it was simply an a-ha moment of self awareness, shame, and humility that wasn’t too nice to feel.
I’ve now rode through all those mixed emotions and am feeling much better.

The main thing was to never lose control, lash out , or do something regrettable , which normally is the natural instinct to lash out.

The lady herself only really noticed I was a little upset, really didn’t think much of it , and in her world, it’s business as usual.

I’ve never thought of this as a game as KJ proposes, perhaps just a single player game, myself and my emotions.

My only decision now is , can I handle seeing her again , which honestly is what I want to do, or do I jump ship?

 

[Ursus]

You invested everything in her and she gave you next to nothing in return. And now you want to continue to invest in her going forward?

Great decision.

I was in love with Asian Angela for almost 5 years. Then, I finally realized that she doesn't care about me at all - not even 1%. So what did I finally do? I moved on. I haven't seen her since last year and I don't plan on ever booking her again. No hard feelings. I still think she is sexy. I helped her out last week with something she needed assistance with. But she knows I won't ever book her again. And I know it too. Just no point in booking her again. I receive no benefit from it. So, I stopped doing it. She literally cares less for me than she does for a bottle of shampoo or a stick of gum. I am not joking. All girls are like that. Learn from it.

 

[LostInnocence]

I don't think I would recommend you see her this week. I think you have to go somewhere else and see how you feel about that. Only then will you be able to decide how you feel.

When one of my favourites decided we shouldn't see each other any more, I took this route. I had a good session with a sweet young lady, and then my girl reached out, missing me and I saw her again. It was awkward, that first time back, but it was a good restart. Sometimes when you see another girl, you know you can live without the first one. And sometimes you know you can't.

(In Real World, I would give different advise... just wait it out and explore how you feel. This can take a long time and be unsatisfying. In Hobby World, there are "Options!")

 

[Ursus]

Hangdai,

I like you and I want to help you out. If you are looking for a sexy, fun, affectionate girl that you can connect to, Akria Yofu is an option for you.

She is very, very beautiful, her menu is superb and she will act as your girlfriend if you are a repeat client. And she won't charge you her regular rate if you book her enough and ask her for a 'friends' discount.

You know where to find her, I am sure.

She is downtown and she is expensive, but she will travel to meet you and she won't always charge you the high price if you invest in her.

And yes, I have seen her. Second time I booked her, she already agreed to go to dinner with me for a signifigantly reduced fee. Basically free as long as I paid for the dinner and booked her afterwards. Akira Yofu is an amazing girl.

 

[Hangdai]

You invested everything in her and she gave you next to nothing in return. And now you want to continue to invest in her going forward?

Great decision.

I was in love with Asian Angela for almost 5 years. Then, I finally realized that she doesn't care about me at all - not even 1%. So what did I finally do? I moved on. I haven't seen her since last year and I don't plan on ever booking her again. No hard feelings. I still think she is sexy. Just no point in booking her again. I receive no benefit from it. So, I stopped doing it.

Actually, I got a great return on my investment. A spa located 5 minutes from my doorstop ( save travel costs), appointments always kept, a full hour of DFK, bbbj, Daty, and sex, with a lady with my perfect image of a Asian Milf body, face, and attitude, with as many sogs as I wanted , which was 3 sogs on a low day and up to 6 sogs at my peak.
Her original price for me? $50 hour room fee and $100 tip. Obviously I paid more after my first visit but never at her urging.
She never asked for anything except for urging me to try another girl (instead of herself) to give the other girl some business on a slow day.

In my case, this is purely about my ability to control my “own” emotions, not about any she devil gold digging wicked bitch.

 

[Hangdai]

I don't think I would recommend you see her this week. I think you have to go somewhere else and see how you feel about that. Only then will you be able to decide how you feel.

When one of my favourites decided we shouldn't see each other any more, I took this route. I had a good session with a sweet young lady, and then my girl reached out, missing me and I saw her again. It was awkward, that first time back, but it was a good restart. Sometimes when you see another girl, you know you can live without the first one. And sometimes you know you can't.

(In Real World, I would give different advise... just wait it out and explore how you feel. This can take a long time and be unsatisfying. In Hobby World, there are "Options!")

I usually hobby 2-3 times per week, so I am distracted by other ladies, and really do have a nice rotation of ladies at semi-legits and SP’s.
I’ve tested my urges by skipping a week with her once in a while, and yes, it always was a great reunion after waiting 2 weeks.

I know she’ll be glad to see me and my cash, the true test is how I’ll handle it.

It’s weird, there are several other ladies who provide me with as good as service and price, are actually younger and prettier, but this lady has me all tied up in knots.

 

[LostInnocence]

I usually hobby 2-3 times per week, so I am distracted by other ladies, and really do have a nice rotation of ladies at semi-legits and SP’s.
I’ve tested my urges by skipping a week with her once in a while, and yes, it always was a great reunion after waiting 2 weeks.

I know she’ll be glad to see me and my cash, the true test is how I’ll handle it.

It’s weird, there are several other ladies who provide me with as good as service and price, are actually younger and prettier, but this lady has me all tied up in knots.

But it will be different now that YOU are different.

 

[Voland]

But it will be different now that YOU are different.

Nope. He is not YET different.

 

[Steeper]

Actually, I got a great return on my investment. A spa located 5 minutes from my doorstop ( save travel costs), appointments always kept, a full hour of DFK, bbbj, Daty, and sex, with a lady with my perfect image of a Asian Milf body, face, and attitude, with as many sogs as I wanted , which was 3 sogs on a low day and up to 6 sogs at my peak.
Her original price for me? $50 hour room fee and $100 tip. Obviously I paid more after my first visit but never at her urging.
She never asked for anything except for urging me to try another girl (instead of herself) to give the other girl some business on a slow day.

In my case, this is purely about my ability to control my “own” emotions, not about any she devil gold digging wicked bitch.

Bottom line we are just another toilet to clean to them I learned that a long time ago. Its just work that's how they think

 

[krayjee]

There has been some good dialogue on this thread and overall I’m impressed with much of the support I’ve received.

This whole thing started with what really amounts to my over inflated idea of what I thought the lady thought of me.
Once I realized the truth, it was simply an a-ha moment of self awareness, shame, and humility that wasn’t too nice to feel.
I’ve now rode through all those mixed emotions and am feeling much better.

The main thing was to never lose control, lash out , or do something regrettable , which normally is the natural instinct to lash out.

The lady herself only really noticed I was a little upset, really didn’t think much of it , and in her world, it’s business as usual.

I’ve never thought of this as a game as KJ proposes, perhaps just a single player game, myself and my emotions.

My only decision now is , can I handle seeing her again , which honestly is what I want to do, or do I jump ship?

Hangdai my friend , these ladies have been in this business for yrs and they have seen it all over and over again. To them , it is just a business and business as usual no matter what happened to a few guys like you. They will keep on playing with other guys one after another and most of these ladies have husbands and boyfriends and some have both. One of my fav has a husband, a BF and a son. Loyalty means nothing to them. Money is their top priority. Guys like you are their cash cow, their golden goose which give them golden eggs.

I am now working at 2-3 spas and I am seeing more and more victims like you every day and every week and all those ladies have 2-3 guys on their leashes all the time. Not just one, at least 2-3 guys at a time and using them quite well. I felt bad when I see those things and sometimes I have to warn the girls to be nice. Their answer was they didn't ask anything and nothing they can do if they are willing victims.

My suggestion to you is stop seeing her and go see someone new some where else or see another girl in the same spa if you want to know how she feels about you. The best thing is to have 2-3 favs like me all the time. As I have told you I just lost one of my fav, It doesn't bother me much cuz I have 2 other girls in hand but still pretending as if I am still deeply in love with her and she's buying it..lol. I used to be like you but it is just a game to me now. Never let your guards down my friend.

 

[Hangdai]

Hangdai my friend , these ladies have been in this business for yrs and they have seen it all over and over again. To them , it is just a business and business as usual no matter what happened to a few guys like you. They will keep on playing with other guys one after another and most of these ladies have husbands and boyfriends and some have both. One of my fav has a husband, a BF and a son in college. Loyalty means nothing to them. Money is their top priority. Guys like you are their cash cow, their golden goose which give them golden eggs.

I am now working at 2-3 spas and I am seeing more and more victims like you every day and every week and all those ladies have 2-3 guys on their leashes all the time. Not just one, at least 2-3 guys at a time and using them quite well. I felt bad when I see those things and sometimes I have to warn the girls to be nice. Their answer was they didn't ask anything and nothing they can do if they are willing victims.

My suggestion to you is stop seeing her and go see someone new some where else or see another girl in the same spa if you want to know how she feels about you. The best thing is to have 2-3 favs like that all the time. As I have told you I just lost one of my fav, It doesn't bother me much cuz I have 2 other girls in hand but still pretending as if I am still deeply in love with her and she's buying it..lol. I used to be like you but it is just a game to me now. Never let your guards down my friend.

Your words do hit a nerve with me, perhaps something I don’t want to admit.

I do feel different about her, than before.
I should just end it with great memories and move on.

 

[krayjee]

Your words do hit a nerve with me, perhaps something I don’t want to admit.

I do feel different about her, than before.
I should just end it with great memories and move on.

Trust me my friend. It is best to walk away and start a new game. You know what they are and you just have to blame yourself. Two of my favs have BFs and both guys know I am having fun with their GFs and jealous as hell but they told them it's their job and those guys have no say at all. I will never forget the night last yr one of my fav answered her BF's call while she was giving me the CG ride. It was very late at night and I suspected he knew we were having fun and did that call intentionally not too far away from the spa. That's how good these women are in manipulating and controlling the men.

 

[Steeper]

Trust me my friend. It is best to walk away and start a new game. You know what they are and you just have to blame yourself. Two of my favs have BFs and both guys know I am having fun with their GFs and jealous as hell but those guys have no say or daren't say anything. I will never forget the night last yr one of my fav answered her BF's call while she was giving me the CG ride with my little guy inside her. It was very late at night and I suspected he knew we were having fun and did that call intentionally not too far away from the spa. That's how good these women are in manipulating and controlling the men.

Ruby talks to her Mom on the phone when she's riding just another day in eden

 

[Leviathan]

Prediction : No doubt. He will return to her. In these typical longterm arrangements the you are “so special full menu deal” was available.

The only way you know he has gotten over her is he writes a review and publishes her name/shop.

https://www.cbsnews.com/media/sex-lies-and-stupidity-great-men-who-self-destructed/

 

[pman]

Your words do hit a nerve with me, perhaps something I don’t want to admit.

I do feel different about her, than before.
I should just end it with great memories and move on.

Hangdai, you started this thread by
"Not the first time and probably not the last time for me, but yes, I fell for a lady".
Take painkiller.

 

[Ursus]

Hangdai,

You have to totally change your mindset and personality towards these girls.

I was trying to book a lady in Kitchener yesterday. I inquired, gave her a time limit to confirm, but she didn't confirm. Later on, after hours and hours, she confirmed with me. But, she didn't do it on my watch, on my time horizon. I will never again, as I did before, wait and wait for a lady to confirm an appt request with me. So, I won't go see her because she took way, way too long to confirm to me. That's how you have to think. It is about you and getting what you want. If the girl doesn't give you what you want, go find another one. These girls, literally, have no concern for you at all. They don't like you more than the money you give them each month.

I always tell new guys who enter the hobby that they, as a customer, could be dead on the side of the road 5 minutes after leaving an appt with a sex-worker, and the sex-worker wouldn't even care. You aren't worth anything to your favourite girl except the value she places on getting your money from you during the next appt.

As I have said many times over, women, generally, won't invest in things like men do. And as humans, we will never appreciate or care about the things we don't invest in.

No matter how much you want your fav to care about you, she doesn't. Think about how many dicks these girls play with in a year - 2,000 or more. And think about how many dicks these girls play with in a 4 or 5 year period that they remain in the hobby - 10,000 or more. Do you really think that you and your dick are special to her amongst the other 10,000 that she plays with?

 

[Ursus]

And the funniest thing about this hobby is:

The girls who advertise for men to book them look down on those same men that book them.

AND

The guys who book these girls look down on the girls for working as sex workers.

The irony is thick. You can't make this shit up.

 

[Ursus]

Your words do hit a nerve with me, perhaps something I don’t want to admit.

I do feel different about her, than before.
I should just end it with great memories and move on.

Guaranteed that your girl and every girl, as well as every escort, has at least 3 - 4 guys she is stringing along. Guys she gets free dinners from. Free clothes from. Free trips. Free money.

And a woman has no investment in it other than opening her legs for 3 minutes once or twice per month. So, to her, it doesn't matter. You either continue to pay or she walks away and goes to guy #2, #3 or #4.