Thanks for the rep points Ursus, and I don't want to get all mushy but...
Your post regarding "Returning from Boston" was really good hitting some points where I am now looking inward towards the empty spaces i'm trying to fill.
Fallsview,
The best thing you can do when interacting with women is to treat them the same way you would treat any man. When you treat a woman without kid gloves, you quickly see them for what they are and what they do. Then, you can interact with them more easily. And you can avoid all the pitfalls that they attempt to trick you with.
Example:
When a woman asks you to hang out with her, but she requests that you pick her up in the late afternoon because she is 'busy' in the morning, you tell her, just as you would a man, that the two of you can reschedule when she isn't 'busy' and when she can leave at a more advantageous time than during rush hour traffic.
OR
When a woman asks you to dinner and picks an out-of-the-way, over-priced, under-served restaurant because her friends are talking about how popular it is, refuse to take her and tell her that you want to eat somewhere that both of you would enjoy, instead of only pleasing her food tastes. And inform her that you expect her to pay for herself as you don't want a relationship with her if you have to pay her to spend time with you.
And if she refuses, don't sweat it. There are literally 25 other things you can do with your time than spend it with a woman who wants to dominate you and spend your money. This is exactly how women think when they are considering whether to go out on a date with a man or not.
If you meet a woman who is too short and not to your liking, tell her that she is too short and that you want to date a taller woman. Same goes for breast size or anything else that doesn't meet your minimum requirements. This is exactly how women behave towards men. Treat women the way they treat men. Treat women the same way you would treat your male friend. Don't ever treat a woman with kid gloves and you will be fine. Develop yourself and invest in yourself and make yourself happy, not a woman who is always on the lookout for something better.