Hi there, If you havent gotten your test results back, and you havent said anything to your wife... the next time you notice the discharge, or burning feeling mention it to her... "honey, I noticed I have this discharge...." this will do 2 things, open the communication lines between you and her, and when she says to go see a doctor, ask her to go with you(tell her it would make you feel better as you are quite scared and have no idea whats wrong). In front of the doctor, explain the symptoms, and when he says it may be an std, ask how this can be transmitted, and question the dormancy issue, so that you arent accusing her... directly, and it makes her realize it 'may' have been her you contracted it from.