I want to feel seduced, thats my thing. If I feel it's just a transactional thing for them, it does nothing for me. Of course not all girls are like that, but I remember I didn't nut for around 4 months (yes I'm serious) and a girl actually seduced me at another nearby spa across the street, after I told her no a few times, lol. She just kept doing her thing, touching, etc and I'm like fuck it, lol.