One bar - one girl?

[Somebody]

Really? Even compared to the Lighthouse of Alexandria?

 

[James Bond]

You say you been with 6 different girls in the same bar and the reason you been able to do that is because the bar owner has successfully controlled his staff

Well, we have all been around bars enough and know that there is a lot of emotion involved in the beer bar/ gogo atmosphere.
To say that the bar is successful because they are able to suppress those emotions is, just a pimp and that's all.
You have always been very clinical about your participation but I just think LOS is so much more than that and just find going with 6 different girls in 1 bar is just weird and creepy.
And to comment about any type of controlling their staff to allow that is again, downright creepy.

But hey, I married a prostitute, so people may call me weird too 5555

Different methods

 

[Karen Phondeth]

understood generally but am getting at a balance between spineless pussy and arrogant shithead

(though for a mongerer it is just a brothel by the sea and care needed not to buy too far into them not being prostitutes)

its one thing being aware of the veneer of BS, that somehow they are (not like) prostitutes therefore i am (not like) a john- quite another to buy into it lock stock and barrel

its the thin end of the wedge for many - mustn't upset them, must respect 'thai culture', they are the most downtrodden and unfortunate of thai people etc

small grains of truth (except that last one which has none) don't make a silo!

tourist hardened thais (prostitutes or otherwise) can smell fear even better than money

and on that point a little, never quite understood guys being wary of every thai in tourist areas other than prostitutes (particularly hotel staff, police, tuk tuk, jet ski etc) when prostitutes are the most devious - pussy struck must be the only answer?

 

[theShinning]

Not creepy. Makes perfect sense to me, if a business is well managed and the staff are happy you can feel it in the atmosphere of the place even as a customer there - a restaurant, a hotel or a go-go bar all same same. Enjoy.

 

[name-me]

They say anything more than a mouthful or handful is a waste

 

[Dana]

Oh yes, as long as the nipples are erect who cares. LOL

 

[Jip248]

I was in Patong in august and now, 3 months later, went to a bar I've already visited in august. I took one BG form this bar to hotel back in august. She remebered me yesterday, but this time I was more interested in another BG.

After a few drinks I suggested that other BG to move to my hotel ... but she asked me if I have been with any other girl form this bar. When she found out I've been with another BG, she was afraid that another BG would be angry at her. I hardly persuaded her to leave me her phone number to call her after the bar is closed. On my way to hotel I somehow managed to lose that piece of paper ...

Today I visited another bar and spotted a really gorgeous looking BG ... but there was already another dude buying her drinks.
Then another BG, not bad, but definatelly not as hot as the other one started a conversation with me ... I started to get tempted, because she was really nice ... but then I remembered the "rule" I've discovered yesterday ... I just picked a phone number from the gorgeous one and moved on ...

So my question is whether I'm right or wrong about this "one bar - one girl rule" ?

 

[Mrs. Nick Jonas <33]

I moved to the US when I was 23.
Though I contribute my taught manners to my mom, it was not before I arrived in the US that acting like a gentleman was widely appreciated.
I remember my mom on her first trip to the US complimenting me that the move had made me a 'real' man.

 

[Ashleypink]

IMO both the best and the worst.

 

[CandM]

Actually, when I married her, my ex was just about as unassertive and homebody type as any woman I have ever met, and no TG had anything on her in the "take care" department, as she doted on me. In fact, when faced with a decision for us to make, and I would ask her what she thought about it, 90% of the time, she would reply, "Up to you!"

Like you, I encouraged her to be more confident, assertive, and involved in the decision-making. And for the same reasons you mention.

But, really, after the kids were born, and especially as they got to be school age, then the amount of time she spent on child-rearing, working(even though she never worked full-time), and other projects, like getting published, and getting a Master's degree, didn't really leave much time for the relationship, or even enough time for herself.

Maybe things just weren't meant to work out in the long run, but the stress that many working moms subject themselves to is not healthy, IMHO, and contributes to a lot of divorces. When one person helps the other to reduce the stress they incur, that works better than when both people are highly stressed. Too much stress and something's got to give.

And when you look at the birth rate info, it appears that Western civilization is in a death spiral, to be replaced largely by Muslim civilization. That has got to make you wonder whether the whole women's lib thing is really on the right track, or whether the traditional ways of our parents and grandparents were not better.

 

[Alesxandurr]

5 not 6, but that's besides the point.
If a girl choose to work as a prostitute going with different men on a nightly basis is investing too much emotions and can't handle a punters that butterfly is surely in the wrong business.
I treat these girls with utmost respect and from what I understand, better than most.
However, consideration for hurt feelings because they are too emotional to handle the profession they chose that's where I set the limit.
The ladies know well from the onset that I will not be with them tomorrow, hence I presumably will be with someone else.

BTW, these very girls usually come up an say hello or joob joob on following days and are joking with me.
I contribute that to management who I know for a fact has told the staff that many board members are visiting daily and should be expected to butterfly with the bar as well as elsewhere.

I think this "ownership" mentality among the girls is more a Phuket phenomenon than at my stomping grounds.

I take it Paul that my you rationale that if a punter bar fines a girl in a bar other punters who is aware of this should consider that girl off limit while I am around; or conversely the girl should not try to get another punter while I am there.
You know, it could hurt my feelings.

 

[Julia S]

Hard to say, it depends on the individual girl(s) in question. Its easier for you if you are upfront with being a butterfly and want many different girls, sometimes not if a girl like you too much it doesnt help.

In MTB for example, sometimes a guy go with almost every girl in the bar, other times, big trouble after the first girl.

Generally speaking, if you are upfront with being a butterfly it makes things easier and smoother, as they dont expect you to be a boyfriend or future husband etc.

Its your holiday and your money, you can do what you want.

 

[Leslie]

I would love to read the source of that piece if information. I mean.... muslim couples in Europe have ON AVERAGE 8.1 children??
Show me the source.

Till then... demagogue talk. Absolutely bulls**t that in 16 years time Belgium or the Netherlands will have a muslim majority.:meuh:

 

[ricardo d]

well to me a completely flat chest is unwomanly and a real turn off....I like em about the size of a small cantaloupe, the shape of a just picked banana, as hard as a crunchy apple and to taste like a strawberry...:great:

feck I'm hungry now....555

 

[Edward]

i can imagine most muslims who come from africa and live in europe are 8.1. at least thats what i've seen in the UK

about 8 years ago when i was in 'high school', all of the African (as in Somalian, Ethiopian and so forth) kids had like 10 brothers and sisters.

 

[Mr Beaker]

It doesn't always work that way, but often does.

If one girl is known to be very aggressive, another girl will not want to provoke her by going with a guy she has been with. Or she might end up getting smacked around a bit, and I have seen that happen.

Or the other girl might be her friend. So, as a friend, she is not going to do to that girl what she would not like that girl to do to her.

Or she might just feel, that friend or not, tough girl or not, she is unsure of what might happen, and better not to create hard feelings with another girl. They spend an awful lot of time together there at their bar, and sometimes they are from the same village. So best to avoid any hard feelings or potential trouble from them sometime down the line, even if the other girl is not a friend or likely to smack them around. Better safe than sorry.

On the other hand, there have been a few times, when I went with a 2nd girl at the same bar, and no trouble resulted. This was usually in a case where the first girl was thought lightly of by the 2nd girl, didn't care what the girl thought, could well handle herself, and most likely back the first girl down in any confrontation. In those cases, the first girl might sulk a little, but didn't have the nerve to challenge the senior/tougher girl.

In another case, I went with a lot of different girls at the same bar one year. The first one I told that I was not her BF and would go with who I liked. She was a tall girl, a good bit bigger and stronger than most, but she was new in the bar, and didn't have the nerve to challenge another girl for me.

There were many girls in that bar, and they were mostly not close friends. Once I established my status as butterfly there, then they all accepted that none had a claim on me, and I could go with who I like. But there were a couple of them, who were friends with the first girl, and refused to go with me. And one who refused to go with me, probably because she only liked to go with younger guys.

 

[damn_pumpkin08]

i guess it is just a different approach, thats all
i wouldnt frequent p4p scene in west and only did in LOS because of the atmosphere presented
people can say they are still prostitutes and are certainly correct but there is an obvious difference
and it is that difference that made me feel acceptable to get involved
and, for me, going with all these different girls in one bar would be too much like a brothel type atmosphere and holds zero interest for me
just my opinion

 

[Pompal 09.]

Agree with all you say Paul and I feel mostly the same.
But to think for a second that it is not 100% business on the part of the ladies is to fool yourself.

 

[wonny435]

It is and it isn't... a lot ultimately want to meet a rich farang husband... so that is part business and part emotion... as it is a future lifestyle they are looking for... while doing their "job"

 

[micki]

i guess all of us guys on this board that married bg's are folling ourself
which I am sure that some may obviously think that