Opinion A better tomorrow

[Deleted member 62126]

I weaned myself off and stayed away for three years. It was difficult. I decided that I was ready to come and venture out here and there. I’m back where I started.

Thank you for writing this post. It has actually made me self reflect and realize once again I need to take a step back.

Good luck. I wish you the best. I probably won’t be on here much anymore, this place makes me curious about different attendants and I feel like it is easier for me to throttle my visits if I am not browsing here.

Good on you bud. If you ever see this message, know that I've been doing well too.

I've come to realize that the start of self limiting myself begins with lists and tunnel vision. If you're doing all the things you need to in the day, make a list of additional things and stick to it. You'll be so busy you won't have time to think with your dick and/or tired... At least until it becomes habit and you can do whatever. Routines and structure are how it starts for me

 

[Cheertwice]

I applaud every effort on trying. It's a tough road but every day is a new step away.

Aside from restrictions and personal goals (my best is staying away from the hobby for 3 months), I'm finding age has gradually diminished my energy for the hunt. In my 20s, I would brave anything or go out of my way to see a favourite or someone on my tdl. Now in my early 50s, I'm making excuses to NOT see someone or it better be on my way to doing something else.

 

[sy barite]

I always hope everyone succeeds at improving themselves, whatever that means for them. But I confess that equating a "better tomorrow" with denying your appetites is bound not to be a wise or healthy endeavour. It's all about balance isn't it? I understand this hobby, or anything really, can be practiced to the point of making your life dysfunctional, so you need discipline. But cutting out what you love completely--is for most people not realistic or ultimately even good for them.

And yes, that's preachy on purpose.

 

[Deleted member 62126]

I always hope everyone succeeds at improving themselves, whatever that means for them. But I confess that equating a "better tomorrow" with denying your appetites is bound not to be a wise or healthy endeavour. It's all about balance isn't it? I understand this hobby, or anything really, can be practiced to the point of making your life dysfunctional, so you need discipline. But cutting out what you love completely--is for most people not realistic or ultimately even good for them.

And yes, that's preachy on purpose.

I'll keep that in mind, sy barite. I sincerely thank you and everyone that's replied to this; the perspective certainly helps. There may not and probably will not be a "final result" to any of this, but I've had a rough go of life this past year (as I'm sure most have) and I'm using it as a turning point - not just for hobbying. Get busy living or get busy dying... and just for me, I do want that balance. I'll work on it.