I broke the golden rule

[ddbigtime]

The heartbreak at the end is worth the joy of the two years you had. Now go find yourself the next one.

Lol glutton for punishment. Better to stick to civilian action

 

[Hangdai]

Hangdai, consider yourself to be a very lucky person to have found a woman who you can fantasize and dream about. Wouldn't you rather have a woman who you think is your girlfriend than to have a woman you'd rather forget about? This woman must be very good at what she does, and you can't blame her for that. This is the woman who does her job very well, as we all need to find someone like this. Fantasies and dreams are things we need to get us through the grinds of everyday life.

I was very lucky.

This thread is primarily a public service warning for others, and somewhat therapeutic for me as well.

I’ve said right from the beginning, it’s my fault, she did nothing wrong, I’m still crazy about her but she made it clear to me that I’m not the special “one” that I thought I was. That realization cuts like a knife, just like that teenage girlfriend that dumped you and you thought the world was over.
It’s not, I know, but it still weighs on your mind. I can’t imagine anyone never having that feeling once in their life.

She still wants to see me, but I know in my heart it’ll never be the same, and that also really hurts, so the best advice I’ve been given and accept is to cut her loose and move on.

 

[bumzbumz]

Did she lead me on, fool me, trick me? No, she just did her job very well and I was just a very happy loyal customer who foolishly thought of it as more, when it was just business as usual. Oh the pain....

Glad you were honest about this. I honestly don't believe a lot of the stories guys taalk about being tricked. I think the guysthought the simple words a MPA said and does was more than business but they were wrong.

 

[LostInnocence]

Lol glutton for punishment. Better to stick to civilian action

That's certainly an option for some people. You've got:

• Someone similar
• Someone completely different
• Civilian... try a dating site
• Take a break

 

[ddbigtime]

I was very lucky.

This thread is primarily a public service warning for others, and somewhat therapeutic for me as well.

I’ve said right from the beginning, it’s my fault, she did nothing wrong, I’m still crazy about her but she made it clear to me that I’m not the special “one” that I thought I was. That realization cuts like a knife, just like that teenage girlfriend that dumped you and you thought the world was over.
It’s not, I know, but it still weighs on your mind. I can’t imagine anyone never having that feeling once in their life.

She still wants to see me, but I know in my heart it’ll never be the same, and that also really hurts, so the best advice I’ve been given and accept is to cut her loose and move on.

you should delete the thread next week, thats more therapeutic

 

[Hangdai]

you should delete the thread next week, thats more therapeutic

Nah, those that forget the past tend to repeat in the future.

 

[ddbigtime]

well, i wish you a speedy recovery. And that you dont get any painful reminders

 

[papaya]

Glad you were honest about this. I honestly don't believe a lot of the stories guys taalk about being tricked. I think the guysthought the simple words a MPA said and does was more than business but they were wrong.

Come on. Lets be serious. No-one is tricking us. Guys know fully well when they pay someone for a service, it is a business transaction. It is not the civilian world we are talking about. That's a different story. So no we HAVE NOT been tricked. You allow yourself to be tricked. These sex workers are there for a reason: to take your money as much as possible. nothing wrong with it because thats the job description. if you think they are there to be like Mother Theresa, there are lots of hospitals out there to help you differentiate between reality and illusion.

 

[papaya]

Sounds like what I recently went through....not 100% sure if she still wants to see me though.

Of course she wants to see you as long as you are paying her. Period.

 

[papaya]

I was very lucky.

This thread is primarily a public service warning for others, and somewhat therapeutic for me as well.

I’ve said right from the beginning, it’s my fault, she did nothing wrong, I’m still crazy about her but she made it clear to me that I’m not the special “one” that I thought I was. That realization cuts like a knife, just like that teenage girlfriend that dumped you and you thought the world was over.
It’s not, I know, but it still weighs on your mind. I can’t imagine anyone never having that feeling once in their life.

She still wants to see me, but I know in my heart it’ll never be the same, and that also really hurts, so the best advice I’ve been given and accept is to cut her loose and move on.

Honestly, why is it a warning. We are fully aware that we are just a client to them. They follow a well known script. Try to make as much money as possible. Keep the service interesting and they shall return.
I dont compare a "girlfriend" to a sex worker. Anyone who does this is making everyone involved uncomfortable.

 

[Ursus]

You could be married to a woman for 40 years, and trust me, she doesn't care AT ALL about you. The minute your wife or girlfriend sees a better opportunity, she starts thinking of a way to leave you and blame the relationship break-up on you. Escorts and MPAs are no different. No escort or MPA will ever care about you, no matter how much effort, time and money you invest in them.

People tell me I hate women. OK, I guess. I just see the truth and I admit it to myself.

Remember, a woman will kill her own child and think nothing of it. She will seek out an abortion or support her friend who wants to have one. If a person is willing to kill their own child, do you really think they will ever care about you, as the man in her life? And if she won't care about you as her husband, what makes you think she will care about you as a paying client of hers?

Highly unlikely.

 

[ddbigtime]

Come on. Lets be serious. No-one is tricking us. Guys know fully well when they pay someone for a service, it is a business transaction. It is not the civilian world we are talking about. That's a different story. So no we HAVE NOT been tricked. You allow yourself to be tricked. These sex workers are there for a reason: to take your money as much as possible. nothing wrong with it because thats the job description. if you think they are there to be like Mother Theresa, there are lots of hospitals out there to help you differentiate between reality and illusion.

I am normally the first white knight to jump to defend. Its hard to do that now, increasingly I share your point of view.

but i always hope that this hobby is a transition stop for everyone. I hope every girl meets her goal and moves on.

 

[ddbigtime]

Honestly, why is it a warning. We are fully aware that we are just a client to them. They follow a well known script. Try to make as much money as possible. Keep the service interesting and they shall return.
I dont compare a "girlfriend" to a sex worker. Anyone who does this is making everyone involved uncomfortable.

My problem is I gave them my number for the first time. Then I got used to being able to text. If you never do that, nothing happens and it stays in the room.

 

[Leviathan]

All these heart break stories sounds familiar in every forum. The sad thing is most will never break out of the cycle of addiction and always rationalize the heart break as a defensive mechanism or go simply go mental like Ursula.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...riter-explains-succumbed-lure-paying-sex.html

 

[ddbigtime]

You could be married to a woman for 40 years, and trust me, she doesn't care AT ALL about you. The minute your wife or girlfriend sees a better opportunity, she starts thinking of a way to leave you and blame the relationship break-up on you. Escorts and MPAs are no different. No escort or MPA will ever care about you, no matter how much effort, time and money you invest in them.

People tell me I hate women. OK, I guess. I just see the truth and I admit it to myself.

Remember, a woman will kill her own child and think nothing of it. She will seek out an abortion or support her friend who wants to have one. If a person is willing to kill their own child, do you really think they will ever care about you, as the man in her life? And if she won't care about you as her husband, what makes you think she will care about you as a paying client of hers?

Highly unlikely.

I agree whole heartedly on that point.
No escort or MPA will ever care about you, no matter how much effort, time and money you invest in them.

 

[ddbigtime]

All these heart break stories sounds familiar in every forum. The sad thing is most will never break out of the cycle of addiction and always rationalize the heart break as a defensive mechanism or go simply go mental like Ursula.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...riter-explains-succumbed-lure-paying-sex.html

I shouldn't have read that article, I see myself very clearly in that piece.

 

[LostInnocence]

I agree whole heartedly on that point.
No escort or MPA will ever care about you, no matter how much effort, time and money you invest in them.

Sorry, I disagree here. They are humans like we are, and sometimes they have some feelings for us. It is hard, though. It's a very difficult transition from client to boyfriend, for both male and females. The money issue and the trust issue is always there until you communicate enough and trust each other enough to make the change. The guy wonders if she only loves him because he's paying, and she wonder if he only loves her so that he can stop paying. And then both of them have to agree that a relationship is what they want. All of these things are difficult.

I still say that giving another person your heart is worthwhile. I've done it enough in civie life and it has been broken and repaired enough times, and the great memories have remained. I have had no difficulty in doing it in Hobby World. I don't fall in love with everyone I see, and some I have only fallen a little bit in love with. Sometimes it crashes. Sometimes it withers. Sometimes it hurts. But sometimes it is glorious. Sometimes you wake up and she's the first thing on your mind, and the last thing you think about when you go to sleep, and she's in your thoughts all day long, and that makes you happy. Who would ever not want this? And then when you are together... there's nothing like being with the woman you love. Just being in the same room, looking in her eyes, sharing a kiss and a smile, breathing the same air. I have been so honoured a few times, that some of the most special women I Have ever met have allowed me to feel this about them, and in their ways, felt at least a little something for me, too.

 

[Ursus]

Sorry, I disagree here. They are humans like we are, and sometimes they have some feelings for us. It is hard, though. It's a very difficult transition from client to boyfriend, for both male and females. The money issue and the trust issue is always there until you communicate enough and trust each other enough to make the change. The guy wonders if she only loves him because he's paying, and she wonder if he only loves her so that he can stop paying. And then both of them have to agree that a relationship is what they want. All of these things are difficult.

I still say that giving another person your heart is worthwhile. I've done it enough in civie life and it has been broken and repaired enough times, and the great memories have remained. I have had no difficulty in doing it in Hobby World. I don't fall in love with everyone I see, and some I have only fallen a little bit in love with. Sometimes it crashes. Sometimes it withers. Sometimes it hurts. But sometimes it is glorious. Sometimes you wake up and she's the first thing on your mind, and the last thing you think about when you go to sleep, and she's in your thoughts all day long, and that makes you happy. Who would ever not want this? And then when you are together... there's nothing like being with the woman you love. Just being in the same room, looking in her eyes, sharing a kiss and a smile, breathing the same air. I have been so honoured a few times, that some of the most special women I Have ever met have allowed me to feel this about them, and in their ways, felt at least a little something for me, too.

Lost commenting on a woman having an Abortion:

You are a courageous and brave woman. I admire you. You did the right thing. I know it was tought, but you will get through it. I be here whenever you need me.


Lost commenting on a father killing his own child:

You are an animal who deserves the death penalty. I hope you rot in hell.

 

[Lovederub]

You could be married to a woman for 40 years, and trust me, she doesn't care AT ALL about you. The minute your wife or girlfriend sees a better opportunity, she starts thinking of a way to leave you and blame the relationship break-up on you. Escorts and MPAs are no different. No escort or MPA will ever care about you, no matter how much effort, time and money you invest in them.

People tell me I hate women. OK, I guess. I just see the truth and I admit it to myself.

Remember, a woman will kill her own child and think nothing of it. She will seek out an abortion or support her friend who wants to have one. If a person is willing to kill their own child, do you really think they will ever care about you, as the man in her life? And if she won't care about you as her husband, what makes you think she will care about you as a paying client of hers?

Highly unlikely.

Brother you are bang on they don't care they just want our cashola ..... I think we all felt once or twice for one of these demons

 

[snoopdoggie]

The heartbreak at the end is worth the joy of the two years you had. Now go find yourself the next one.

Yes, this industry has a revolving door. New women come in all the time.