Thanks for being so open. This is something I’ve known for years from all my regular relationships through the years, as well as those ladies with whom have opened up to me on this topic.
It’s still humorous to think some guys who think that flicking their tongue fast on the pussy for 30 seconds is somehow the holy grail to a women’s orgasm. It might be in perhaps 5% , but in most cases, every women is like a combination lock, it just takes a while to dial it in, or in a majority of cases, will not , or can not happen with a partner ever.
But!
I think you are missing an important point here, a mans mind, not his cock is his biggest sex organ. Satisfying the cock feels good but satisfying his mind can be just as important.
Honestly, I never ever, ever, ever ask the lady “did you cum?” If the physical evidence and experience suggests it did, then I’m fine with it, if they actually tell afterwards, that’s fine too.
Should you lie if the man asks you? Well, that’s up to the lady, but honestly, seeing a happy lady also makes me happy, so when I’m thinking whom I’ll visit next time, will I choose the lady that “looked” happy or the lady that just told me to lay back and let me do my job?